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The World of the Married (2020)

Drama: The World of the Married (부부의 세계)
Network: JTBC
Episodes: 16
Release Date: March 27 – May 16, 2020
Runtime: Friday & Saturday 22:50

A woman discovers that her husband has been having an affair with a younger woman.

Main Cast
Kim Hee Ae – Ji Sun Woo
Park Hae Jun – Lee Tae Oh
Han So Hee – Yeo Da Kyung

Wah!!! From the very first scene where we get a passionate bed scene between the couple, I just knew that this show will fall very very hard and will get crazy. I was right! This drama was a rollercoaster of emotions, mostly dark and bitter and angst and evil! This definitely deserved all the ratings it got all throughout its run.

Where do i start? Dr Ji Sun Woo. You know i liked her at the start, she was smart, elegant, and she looked like a great mother and wife. But as the story unfolds, I realized that she wasn’t. I honestly thought the way she addressed the affair and all her actions after were not classy at all. She was mentally unstable and selfish. She keeps saying she is doing it to protect her son and she hates her husband, yet she just did what she wanted without thinking of the repercussions and the people she hurt. Yes, she was hurt too but she didn’t have to drag everyone’s else’s lives down with her. I felt like the neighbor and Da Kyung (more on her later), was stronger and classier than her. they knew when to finally back down and leave when they realized they were hurting themselves and move away from Gosan and all the tragic past.

Sunwoo had every chance to get away, the minute she found out about the affair, she could have just asked for a divorce and leave town. When Tae Oh came back and left to look for a new place to settle, she should have done that, rather than go back to Gosan. But no, she held on to Gosan for some reason, and wouldn’t leave the town. Even when Joon Young (More on him later too) agreed.

So if you ask me, Tae Oh started the whole thing by having an affair, but it was Sunwoo who ruined everything. Had she cleared her mind, the outcome would probably be better. She would be happier, in another town, with Joon Young, without toxic ex husband and vengeful mistress, and with a handsome and understanding man like Dr Kim.

And another thought, Sunwoo didn’t have a real friend in Gosan. The neighborhood wives were all b*tches, and the snake double agent doctor friend was bad. I don’t even know why Sunwoo continues to be friends with the doctor lady. and it also wasn’t clear why she was being so sneaky. I thought she secretly liked Tae Oh but it wasn’t the case. Or maybe she was envious of Sunwoo. I think if she had just one true friend, who could have had her back or real-talked her, she wouldn’t have been this irrational.

Tae Oh. What to say about him? He must have felt so incompetent beside his lovely and successful wife. And he must hate how people thinks he is just living off his wife. Sometimes i feel bad for him, it’s not like he is a mooch. He is trying to work hard, though his hard work hasn’t been paying off. And he was a great dad to Joon Young. I have no problems with Tae Oh being the househusband and Sunwoo is the breadwinner. I think it doesn’t matter as long as it doesn’t bother the couple. But apparently it did bother Tae Oh. So much that he fell in love with a much younger girl, who made him feel like a man that could make a difference. This is the exact thing that i couldn’t really grasp. Sunwoo had no problems being the breadwinner. She never insulted Tae Oh for not being successful. In fact, she was supportive of him and always helped him. She never made him feel small and she just loved him as he was. So I couldn’t understand what drove him to have an affair.

Although in the later episodes we all realized that Da Kyung is like a younger version of Sun woo. Maybe all this time, Tae Oh wanted to go back to that time when they were young and Tae Oh was the man in the relationship, Sunwoo wasn’t too successful. Or maybe Da Kyung was the “what could have been” if Tae Oh was the successful one and Sunwoo was the supporting wife.

Most often times I hated Tae Oh for hurting Sunwoo so much, not just with his actions, but with his words. Like it was all Sunwoo’s fault, that she made all the mess, that she didn’t have the right to get angry. Park Hae Joon did a fantastic job as Tae Oh, the guy you love to hate, but is so pitiful, you want to understand him but then he goes crazy again and you want to kill him. That’s the rollercoaster of emotions you will suffer from the whole time!

I didn’t watch Doctor Foster because i didn’t want to know the ending, so I was imagining will Tae Oh die so that the whole problem will stop? Or will Sunwoo die to make it more tragic? Or will they just get back together in the end to make the story more interesting (like that Gone Girl movie).

Oh Da Kyung. If i were her friend or a sister, i would have told her not to have an affair with Tae Oh. She is young, beautiful and rich. She can have all the best guys in the world, why would she choose an old incompetent fool like Tae Oh? Like seriously. her parents, no matter how wealthy and caring they seem to be, apparently didn’t raise her well.

Steal someone’s husband and flaunt it in everyone’s faces as if she had every right to do so? without remorse just because she thinks Tae Oh loves her? Stupid enough to get knocked up? I mean, hello, if you really can’t help but love a married man, at least be discreet about it and take care of yourself. Make sure you don’t get pregnant!!

And what did the parents do? They supported her (which was fine, they’re her parents) but again, they got angry at Sunwoo for revealing the affair and tried to bring everyone in the neighborhood against the legal wife? And when Tae Oh and DA Kyung came back to town, all successful, the parents again, helped them settle back in the town, and was trying to blackmail and humiliate Sunwoo to leave town. If they were good parents, they should have told Tae Oh and Da Kyung never to come back to town and hold a successful life in Seoul. That’s what you can do to protect your child from the hate.

As much as I want to understand Da Kyung, I can’t. She was really so bad to Sunwoo, and she used Joon Young by pretending to be the nice stepmom but actually scheming to get him shipped to boarding school was terrible! If she really loved Tae Oh, she should have been ready to accept Joon Young (and Sunwoo) will be in their lives forever. Joon Young was almost warming up to Da Kyung and Tae Oh was loving her even more. I think for Sunwoo, Da Kyung probably also felt insecure with the older and wiser woman and she is scared of Tae Oh falling in love with Sunwoo again. This is a hard choice. If she didn’t purposely bait Sunwoo, i think Sunwoo would have left her alone and their lives would have been peaceful. Maybe they could have even co-existed in the same town. I mean, in real life, a lot of couples are able to settle their differences and their modern family setup works.

As they say, in every broken relationship, it’s the child that eventually suffers. and Joon Young is the extreme example of what happens to kids in a divorced family. Joon Young started off as a very nice and sweet young man. Then when he found out his dad was having an affair, he became selfish and asked the mother not to divorce the dad. he probably felt scared of the change, worried of how his friends will treat him, and had no one to talk to.

At first i thought Joon Young was an ungrateful selfish brat, then later on i realized how awful he has been feeling. His parents who he loves so much are fighting to death, no one is talking to him directly, not even Sunwoo. He feels betrayed by his dad, and he gets to see the woman who broke his parents’ marriage apart and publicly humiliated his family in front of the whole town acting like the nice sweet stepmom. and he has a baby half sister who everyone dotes on and he feels lost and alone. Poor Joon Young.

I think the last scene where Sunwoo went back to help Tae Oh even when Joon Young told her not to was the last straw for him. Time and time again he has been very disappointed with Sunwoo’s actions – despite all that Tae Oh has done to Sunwoo, she keeps coming back to him and for more and i think Joon Young couldn’t accept that. He also mentioned that he feels it was his fault – had he not recorded his dad, maybe the mom wouldn’t find out. Maybe if they stopped fighting over him, they will stop battling. and i think that’s why he ran away. To get away from all the angst, for his family to stop fighting since he is gone. it is true what happened. When Tae Oh and Sunwoo realized what happened, after all the awful things they’ve done to each other, the most precious thing that wanted to protect was gone.

The ending felt bittersweet. Everyone moved on. But Sunwoo, she wasn’t better off. She lost the thing she wanted the most but life moves on and all she can do is move forward and wait for the day Joon Young finally comes back. To be honest, I didn’t like the ending.

One, after all the rollercoaster ride, and all the angst and drama, the last episode didn’t feel satisfying. But maybe that’s what this show is trying to tell us. You should protect the people you love, lay down your pride if needed, think what is best for them because in the end, nothing matters when you lose them.

Second, i find it absurd that no one can find Joon Young after how many years. He’s a kid, with no money and so sheltered, he probably has never done any work in his life. Where did he go? Where did he hide? Did he stay in Gosan or he found a way to move to another place?

Third, did Joon Young really come back or was it Sunwoo’s imagination? Why would he even come back? Did he miss his mom? Did he realize he can’t continue living alone with nothing to do? Did he just lie low until all the pain is gone before he had the nerve to come back again? So many questions and it’s up to us to answer them.

Rating: 8.5/10 (i rated this as a 9 all the way to ep 15 but pulled down the rating after the lackluster ending)


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